Update to arbor@0.10.0
This is a mix of upstream spack https://github.com/arbor-sim/arbor/blob/master/spack/package.py and what we had from before.
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This is a mix of upstream spack https://github.com/arbor-sim/arbor/blob/master/spack/package.py and what we had from before.