CI fixes for wheel building, prep for musllinux, Spack (#2069)

* Python Wheel workflow uses `ubuntu-20.04` to fix the build
  * In #2058 I forgot to update `ciwheel.yml`
* Why this is necessarily: still have not figured it out. `cibuildwheel`
builds and tests in it's own container...
  * [x] https://github.com/brenthuisman/arbor/actions/runs/3704419712
* Small change to make `musllinux` wheels build. They don't pass testing
yet, so I don't add them to the workflow but that can be solved/added
[later](https://github.com/pypa/cibuildwheel/issues/1376)
* The reason for using `ubuntu-20.04` in the Spack workflow should [no
longer exist](https://github.com/actions/runner-images/issues/6724).