More robust build-catalogue (#1784)

- build-catalogue
  - now installed by pip
  - enable GPU-backends
  - isolate from being installed in a non-default dir
  - rename to arbor-build-catalogue
  - allow hand-written C++ mechanisms to be linked in the same catalogue.
- CMake
  - enable PIC on arbor always to allow linking to shared objects
  - use relative paths when configuring a-b-c, to make relocation less of a problem
- Python
    - ensure a-b-c is installed by pip, along with headers and libarbor.a
    - throw errors if tools (cmake scripts, arbor package, modcc) missing
    - transition setup.py setuptools -> skbuild.
- Wheels
    - Add NML2 support to wheels
    - scripts/build-wheels.sh builds wheels, in principle valid for submission to PyPI, on your own hardware. This should be kept in sync with .github/workflows/ciwheel.yml
    - scripts/patchwheel.py corrects the rpath in the libraries in the wheels, working around a bad interplay between auditwheel and skbuild, see pypa/auditwheel#363
    - Python Wheels are tested as part of the Github Action 
    - Add nml and bundled status to config().