Add optional target-specific configuration for CMake (#1586)

- Add an optional CMake option `ARB_CXX_FLAGS_TARGET` for setting target-specific flags to use when compiling for the target architecture (not applied to compilation of modcc).
- If `ARB_ARCH=="none"` CMake will not add architecture-specific `mtune/march/mcpu` flags
- Remove `ARB_CXXOPT_ARCH` from the installed `arbor-config.cmake`, and replace with more general `ARB_CXX_FLAGS_TARGET`.
- Update spack `package.py` to use this feature to pass custom flags.

Fixes #1519
Fixes #1522 

Replaces PR #1518